It’s EASY to enjoy Motherhood in the beginning days of your child’s life.
You’ve just given birth and you’re no longer pregnant (hooray!). There’s a rush of love hormones surging through your body. You’ve been given an opportunity to just be with, enjoy your baby, and truly get to know them.
What’s known as the “baby moon” is like a little slice of Heaven on Earth. Despite the pain and suffering of postpartum, being able to gaze into your little one’s eyes all day easily dulls the pain and tosses any worry aside.
But, just as it starts, that Baby moom quickly comes to an end.
When life starts to go back to normal, now what?
Instead of being caught up in baby bliss, the realness quickly starts to sink in.
I’m talking about the late night feeds and cuddles that leave you exhausted all day. The dishes that pile up and never seem to go away. The constant stream of laundry that is always staring you down in an almost sinister way. The diaper changes. The tantrums. The never-ending messes. The pure day-to-day busyness of just being MOM.
No time for yourself. Barely enough time to look in a mirror to examine your matted hair and the girl you don’t even recognize anymore.
Then the routine sets in, day after day.
What was once exciting and fulfilling is now tiresome and grueling.
Will life always be this way? Were you always destined to wipe butts, clean up cheerios off the floor a dozen times a day, and take on the role of referee between your kids?
You hate to admit, but you’ve gotten bored of being a Stay at Home Mom.
Not only that, but you’re even starting to wonder if you’re even cut out for it. I mean, admitting that you’re bored of being a stay at home isn’t exactly easy.
Is this the way you SHOULD feel?
You hop on Instagram and scroll through the lives of other Moms living their dreams. You know, the ones that seem to have it all. With their dream career, their kids ballet recitals, and trips all over the world, you start to crave that lifestyle too.
I GET IT.
It’s essentially why I started my first online blog in the first place. I wanted the best of both and I was downright bored of being just a Stay at home Mom. I wanted MORE than just diaper changes and nap time rituals that prevented us from being spontaneous.
But even after starting my blog and pouring my passion and late nights of hustle into it for years, I realized one thing: IT WAS ONLY A DISTRACTION.
My business didn’t help me overcome my boredom of being a SAHM. It only pushed it aside so I could focus my creativity on other things. And over time, it became a source of overwhelm that fueled a burnt-out and unhappy Momma.
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It wasn’t until I saw success AND drought in my business to fully appreciate what I was trying to overlook in the first place: that Motherhood is the greatest gift I have ever been blessed with.
I had this amazing opportunity to change the world – through raising my own children – and I hadn’t even realized it.
In fact, I would even say that I took it for granted.
So, how did I climb out of that hole?
How did I start appreciating Motherhood for real?
How did I push past the boredom of being a stay-at-home Mom?
It’s really quite simple. I just started being grateful for everything.
You see, I discovered that I was bored because I wasn’t truly happy. On the surface, yes, I was happy with my life and with being a Mom. But deep down? I guess you could say that there was a little bit of disappointment festering inside of me. I wasn’t feeling fulfilled the way that I WANTED to be.
How I WANTED to be fulfilled – let that sink for a moment.
Coming to that realization made me understand that I was acting and thinking out of pure selfishness.
So instead of trying to find my own fulfillment, I came to realize that what I already had could fulfill me – IF I ALLOWED IT TO.
I simply changed my attitude, my mindset, and my way of thinking.
The never ending laundry? It was proof that we have clothes to wear and blankets to keep us warm at night.
The piling dishes? Enough food to eat and full, happy tummies.
The dirty floors? Healthy kids running, playing, and building memories.
Late night feeds and taking care of sick kids? A chance to connect with my children so that they know I will always be there for them, no matter what.
Sibling bickering and feuds? The opportunity to teach my kids values, good character, and how we should treat others with respect.
Turning around my situation in the matter of how I viewed it was ultimately how I overcame being a bored stay at home Mom. And it’s how you can overcome it too.
I know it can be hard, but in those times of weakness and desperation, remember that Motherhood is a calling.
You are called to love and shape your children the way you see fit. The ways that can change the world.
And there is nothing mundane about that!